Re: Another spin on this.....

Haha...well, I'm shooting for a PhD in psychology, so a lot of things I've picked up on have helped me get over a lot of different experiences. All you have in life are your experiences and if you don't learn from them...you're making no progress. That...and sometimes love interferes with that and your heart tells you something other than your head. We were only together for about 5 or 6 months before that happened...and yeah we were already living together. Like I said- we moved fast. I think he might have realized how stupid he was for doing it and that if he wouldn't have gotten back with me and started dating her instead, he would be in a really crappy situation. I'm not necessarily ok with it, but...he IS in another state right now and I'm not the least bit suspicious that he might be cheating because I know he's not. His best friends have told me they're actually really surprised at his loyalty towards me in this relationship and they think this might be it and that I've taught him to grow up.

We also have that problem- our parents never taught us about finances, break ups...nothing. We're still really young. We're going through the whole "face to face with the REAL world" together and I think that creates a stronger bond for us even though it takes a lot to realize that all the stress we feel isn't coming from the relationship, but life in general...and it would be much harder without eachother.

And you're right. You're simply a stronger person for all that you've endured, and after this, when he comes back, your relationship will be even stronger and hopefully both of you will have taken a good lesson from it.
Sometimes the other person wants nothing more than to be forgiven for their actions.
I'll tell you...I can't forgive mine, but I can try as hard as I can to forget or ignore because we have more serious matters to focus on...and the mere fact that I know he thinks all has been forgiven and forgotten makes him feel better tells me that he's ready to move on, so I should go with him.

And I'll be honest with you--I think the reality of life and love in relationships is what got to Mine and that's why he did what he did, things got too real and he wanted that escape back to happy land where there are no responsibilities...so he found a young girl who still lived with her parents and hadn't met the first phase of the real world yet. I'm certain that's why Yours did what he did...he wasn't ready so he had to find an escape. You were too good and too smart for him at the time.

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