Another spin on this.....

My heart literally ached when I read your post. I have been in exactly the same place you are in and I know exactly what you are going through.

I agree with both posters who gave you great advice. Try everything, try nothing, beg, be yourself, etc. Whatever you feel like doing at the time, do it.

But, I couldn't help but wonder.........If he cheated on you three times during the first ten years of marriage, is he doing it again? Could it be possible that he is just using YOU to take the blame this time?

I mean, he told you he was staying with a buddy, but he turns off his Cell Phone ?

For me, reading your post showed red flags sticking out everywhere.

I want to be wrong, but my lst husband begged for forgiveness for his wandering eye and promised never to do it again. He would lay low for awhile, but he would always fall back into his old ways. I am going through it right now with a close friend. He, too, promised never to cheat and waited 4 years, but he is right back to his old ways, too.

I don't mean to raise suspicions where they do not need to be, but keep your eyes open.

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