Re: More unsolicited advice...

I really don't think he wants to see desperation, eh? Perhaps you might want to tone it down a bit. He's been gone for a bit, and trying to deal with issues. I'd say hitting him over the head with all that attention might get him a bit flighty.

I think that being charming and full of grace....jovial but not over the top. It's understandable you are nervous, but you don't want to scare him.

Go ahead and show your good side. Try to be like you were before the troubles. Absolutely tell him that you are glad he's back, and you missed him....but let him adjust back in without a bunch of hoopla. He just wants the happy, normalcy of his family. Of course, let the kids do whatever they want, kids are kids.

But if you can keep it together...show lots of teeth, make it very pleasant for him...but don't go crazy.

In the end, it won't matter what you do or don't do. I think you've done what you could. The man needs to make up his mind. Unfortunately, it is pretty hard to hold onto someone that absolutely doesn't want to be there, even if they are just confused for the time being.

You need to be strong for yourself and your kids. Get to a place of strength before he comes home. Get centered. Don't play dramatic scenarios out in your head, it will just make it harder, and you really don't know how this is going to play out. But you do need to think about what will happen should he leave...or stay.

Good luck and let us know how it goes......GOOD LUCK TO YOU.

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