I now know that I've hurt this guy and I have cried about this. I never like to hurt people. This guy is American and not African. At 35, I just thought he should know better. Being that I don't go out on dates often, I'm not a pro at expressing my feelings to dates. It all came about when he asked why I refused to kiss him in the mouth, so I told him the real reason and he got hurt in the process unfortunately.