Re: Relationship clashes with family. Need Advice.

Hi, I am writing this from the school computer room because my phone line went dead and don't know when it'll be fixed (maybe new phone or new line). Your family will cause you problems for the rest of your life, if you let them. You have to be firm and explain to them that they should (not ASK them to understand, TELL them to understand) BUG OFF and not treat you the way they wouldn't want to be treated (do not be too gentle, they will see that as WEAKNESS and it won't be long until they eat into you again, it is their attitude against you that they have to change). Their attitude is CONDESCENDING, JUDGEMENTAL, and CONTROLLING and need to take their frustrations out on someone, because the truth is, they are the ones who are weak, but they can only understand your GENTLENESS as weakness. They are bullies and have simple minds, and if you don't stop them from taking over your life now, it will only get worse and you will start avoiding them (you don't want that and they don't want that, they are your family). If they are bored with life and INSIST on taking their frustrations out on someone (something that no one should do), it shouldn't be a family member, but they have chosen you because you are a gentle and safe target . They will ALWAYS give you all kinds of, what they call, EXCUSES, for being in your business and giving you GRIEF, but the only kind of REAL excuse is a GOOD excuse. They will always say that they have an excuse, but, actually, what they are going to be giving you is their demented way of justifying their actions (explanations of why they think the way they do). The family relationship is supposed to be based on LOVE, and depend on gentleness, not fear. Share this message with your girlfriend so that she understands also that you both share a common enemy...FAMILY, but they, of course, are not really enemies, they only choose to act like it. Tweet