I posted a message about this a few days ago on a different board for some help, this forum seems to be more for problem solving, so now that I am a bit more clear I will describe my situation, maybe someone can help me along the road I am choosing. My girlfriend and I had been through some problems in the past. In the past 6 months I believe we have worked on those issues and things have actually been very very good until a recent incident. I want to add that I love this girl with all my heart and I know she loves me the same. I feel we have a bond that is just unconditional, we have always been able to talk and be honest. She is a good girl and I know she adores me as I do her. Recently there was an altercation involving both of our familys. We decided about a week ago to go out our separate ways for the night. She with her cousin, who I never liked, me with some friends. I ended up drinking heavily. After the night was over, my g/f called me and for some reason I blew up on her, because she was not on her way home. She was hanging out with her cousins and some friends. No big deal to a sober person right? I called her all kinds of names and basically said things I should not have said and I am very upset with myself. I know I was wrong. I basically did some stupid things. The next day she came over to "grab some stuff" to take some space. Well I ended up calling my family and they showed up as well as hers to help her with some things. It ended up being a total mess. It turned into a he did / she did match. Now I ask for some help for my problem that needs a solution... We have decided to "work" on things to get back together slowly. We agreed that we love each other and this is what we want. She has explained that to her family and they are standing by her. My family wants nothing to do with her, my father is neutral, my brother is against it, and my mother says if we get back together I have to choose between her and my girlfriend. She basically said she will never talk to me again. I dont think its true, but its a risk. I dont think the situation my mom has put me in is fair. Maybe it will take time I dont know. I am very unhappy she is putting me in this position. I feel like it is my choice, not hers. I feel like there is no way out of this mess. If I decide to be with the one I love I am going to be abandon by my mother. What a horrible feeling. These are tough times, does anyone have a suggestion?? Maybe just a path I can open up?? Some help would be appreciated! By the way I am 27 and living in my own.