love is never a waste of time & energy... try to get through the grieving process and move on... Begin praying for her & her new boyfriend or wishing them good luck... In any case...31 is a good age for a man to be...Work on yourself...go back to school...move to somewhere cool...do something for yourself...this is your chance to shine... Don't let all of that flesh stuff crush your spirit... Give yourself time to grieve...but all the while...be plannning your escape to a bright new you... Be good to yourself...