What Would You Do In This Situation?

I've been with my now ex-girlfriend for 8 years, and recently she's decided after never having broken up even once that she can no longer deal with my not being able to hold a job. This is true, but it's something i'm trying to remedy, but I do have some problems with Depression that enter in here.

We broke upless than a month ago, and I assumed we'd get back together and that all she needed was a few weeks to herself, which is what she said. She had never cheated on me and we had a very honest relationship.

Apparently, she had no intention of getting back together with me, because after just three weeks, I decided to pay her a visit at her house. There was another car in the driveway, and my stomach sank, as I didn't recognize the car and knew immediately what it meant.

I called her, and she didn't pick up the phone, so to make sure, I said on the answering machine that I would be right over. She immediately picked up. I knew then. I asked and she denied it, and then I said "well then who's car is that". She then fessed up, but says she had met him in the last two weeks.

I think she may have been cheating with him, and decided to break it off with me to be with him. She denies this and says it's very recent. I can't believe she's done this and picturing the two of them in bed is driving me insane.

I am so hurt and angry that I won't even put into words what I want to do. Use your imaginations. I expressed these feelings on the phone and she threatened a restraining order, even though I wouldn't hurt her, just him if anyone. Not that I would ever even do that. I was just very angry. I don't know how else to convey how pissed off I am to her though, even though I am not a violent person generally.

You'd think she would try to make it work after 8 years. I had always told her that if she ever cheated on me, I would never go back with her and couldn't forgive that act. This is true, but now I am entertaining the thought, although very lightly, and am not so sure I could deal with this knowledge.

Is this not cheating because we were broken up, or do you consider the fact that we were commonlaw married in some states(not where we lived though), and no matter how you look at it she was cheating on me. Do I forgive her and go get myself some, and then maybe go back with her?

If it came down to it, do I forgive her or move on? I love this girl and don't think i'll ever meet another woman like her, but with this information, I don't know if I can ever look at her the same way again. Tweet