It's perplexing how misplaced loyalty to a friend and a pre-determination to take that friend's side no matter what she does can bias and mis-shape someone's perspective, even when this includes justifying the pre-emptive initiation of 17 personal attacks in a single post, kind of like a Pearl Harbor of personal attacks. Unfortunately this kind of biased favoritism is dishonest and directly opposes integrity.
I hope you will come to see this correctly Tansy, but first you would need to make the decision to be fair minded. God bless.