Ok so you want me to say "I think you think" and "I think you believe"? Are these debating rules you want me to abide by?
Only a calvinist would say that God's plan failed when they look at an arminianism stance through calvinism eyes. And that is all I have been doing too. I can't see it through your lens. I see it as I see it. I do not see the scriptures meaning what you think they mean, so it's naturally going to be explained from my point of view. How many times did we hear Brown and White or some other debater complain they were being misrepresented by the other debater and they are professionals?
I could say I'm sorry, but I don't think it would do any good because I don't know how to do this any differently.
The reason your laughing was not funny to me is because here we are debating this very subject matter. Again, I see it through a different lens. Just like I didn't find your cartoon guy funny, or your messy mondays guy funny.
Your family knows the way your brain is geared. No changing that. I'm not here to change your mind...it's fixed as far as I can tell. But I don't have to keep quiet just because I'm not an expert debater. If you have some sensible suggestions on debating, I will listen. It's not that I'm not teachable.