Kelle, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how difficult this is for you.
I wanted to let you know many women will not see your posts if you are responding to an old thread. Most view the forum in a non-chronological form, so if you ever have concerns, go to the end of the forum (page 111 right now) and post there.
Please take care of yourself, and know you are in my prayers.