Are you a Victim, a Hero, or a Bad Guy?

Some recent posts reminded me of something that has helped explain some unhealthy past relationships in my life and how to identify the same in new or potential relationships. Understanding the Karpman Drama Triangle (also known as the Trauma Drama Triangle, or Victim Trap) can reveal why we choose roles for ourselves and why we are given roles by others.

The Triangle has three roles: Victim, Hero, and Bad Guy.

Each of the three roles are either self-imposed, or inflicted on others (who volunteer to play their given role, are forced to play their given role, or are even unaware that they are playing their given role). Some people are not aware that they are playing a role, even if they are self-imposed. The Triangle is based on manipulative roles that people seek out to play at the expense of others. The Triangle is based on hidden motives and selfishness, and should not be confused with a true act of heroism or a true victim or a genuine bad guy.

The solution is to avoid playing any of the three roles. Recognizing one's role (whether self imposed or given) and removing oneself from that role causes the whole Triangle to collapse.

http://www.toddlertime.com/mh/general/trauma-triangle-group.htm


http://www.martialdevelopment.com/blog/breaking-the-drama-triangle/


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle