It's true - we all need to want help and we all need to seek discipline. I can't not try and show tribe and comfort someone - it's against my nature. After a bit - I get the gist of some situations and realize it's not time. I don't think it's a downfall but as I get older, I learn to refine my offerings. Certainly, my first few long term relationships were reflective of not getting the gist sooner. Hee.