Re: Stressed about seeing my sexual abuser, PLEASE HELP

Hello again

I suspect your mother couldn't handle the truth fully that a family member has abused you. It is so disgusting and unimaginable that her mind probably needed to twist the information around in order to process such disgusting information. I'm sure in time she will fully accept it as the truth it is. And how other family members process the truth should not be your problem because you are already burdened with the trauma of abuse and the one with the greatest suffering as the victim. There is no justification for you to have to take on additional traumas such as your mother's guilt, grandparent's guilt, shame, denial, whatever... this is just too much on top of the pain you need to process, I believe.

I can totally understand that this man disgusts you. Ofcourse he would. He shouldn't be walking around free. Also, crying is very healing. Do not stop it. It is normal and healing. It takes a long time to heal from these traumas, but people do.

Again, I think it is of the utmost importance that you make yourself top priority in terms of making sure your needs are met in terms of your comfort and what feels right for you.

I'm glad our responses have been affirming to you. Good luck again.