Maya - this clears it up, especially in combination of what you responded to Beth.
Thanks for bringing this up Beth as this was another thought of mine and my friends yesterday - how to be a listener. I see being in the position of a listener means my vibration was not in alignment or I wouldnt be there to be the one to listen to it to begin with. Interesting!
Maya, what you said is real simple and makes sense - thank you :-)