1. I would not want my daughter to date you, as you seem to want to "use" women, and think it is all right as long as you are honest with them. That, in my mind, is the definition of a jerk.
2. You don't seem to want to be a jerk, but seem to be afraid of a real relationship. Be careful, be very careful. You will end up getting hurt by someone who can play the game better than you.
3. You will not find a butterfly in a bar; you will not find a wonderful woman among the ones who are willing just to have a fling with you.
4. Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. I encourage you to have a little courage, and try real dating - which is supposed to be an experience in learning about the other person and how and if that other person might or might not fit into your life. Man up!