Your one act of physical resistance was enough to end it, could a drunken boyfriend completely into it ignore 'baaahby, stooop..." sure.  Is he a bit of a pig....yup.  Did he know you weren't digging it, yes.  Did he seem regretful, yes.  Do you ever enjoy it that way?  No.  So take that as an affirmative to tell him what is up and not put yourself in that position ever again. 

I do not think this makes him some secret abuser, unless there are many other signals, I would not make an entire character assassination based upon the incident.  You both acted stupidly, him selfishly.  I am quite sure he was thoroughly enjoying himself despite you which makes him about 93% of most men I know...ha.  Please be careful not to let other's bad relationships with men color whatever truth you may know that is well beyond what anyone in this forum could possibly grasp from one isolated incident.  Take this as a wake up call to quit having intimate time that is not enjoyable for you and obviously makes you uncomfortable and feel victimized, despite your seeming agreeableness.  By your own admission you have a good friendship and loving relationship -- if this was a glaring magnifying glass upon an area that needs to be addressed use it as such and move forward into a healthier, loving relationship with your boyfriend.

Everything is bigger when you've been drinking, and it would seem both your uncomfortableness with the act and HIS delight in it, despite probably knowing well before this that it was not something you liked whether or not it had ever been vocalized came to the forefront.  Use it as a stepping stone to right this area that has obviously been out of balance for some time now.  If it goes beyond this and you find it only the tip of the iceberg then examine whatever light bulb has gone off and make a serious examination of the entire relationship and whether you should continue it. 

Good luck.

I'm amazed at how people on this forum scream RAPE over everything. I also know the original post is almost a year old so even this reply is useless. But for the sake of posting after eye rolling some of these responses...I'm posting.

Quote: "Finally, I broke down in tears, sobbing into the pillow, while he groaned with pleasure. My sobs and tears only increased, until finally, I COULD NOT take it anymore. I kicked my feet and hit the sides of his legs. He retreated, actually falling to the floor in silence, as I sobbed face down in the pillow."

If this was rape, and he was a rapist, he would've gotten angry over that and jumped back up and pinned her down and really pounded her "anallly".
Instead, he just needed the kick in the legs for it to sink in what he was doing and make him more AWARE. This worked since he cried and controlled himself and not her.

She never said no. She said "I think". And you have to remember she was drunk and probably slurring in her speech and muttering and the words and sentences were probably not coming out right. When "I think" didn't work, she didn't try and push him off her or kick his legs the first few painful pumps into her... Instead of yelling NO or STOp or showing him she did NOT want it, she sucked it up and probably held her breath and clenched the bed sheets. Finally she cracked, kicked him and stuffed her head in a pillow and cried as she took it. BAD COMMUNICATION LADY!


I think some people here have just never had alcohol induced sex or have actually been drunk. To me, the way she describes the situation and guy..is like someone who was driving drunk. They know they shouldn't be driving drunk but somehow do it anyway and then when they kill someone they cry and have remorse. He probably knew somewhere in the back of his head he shouldn't have been going that hard, alcohol took over and when it was over he "cried". Yeah, big scary rapist right there..he cries.

Alcohol messes with you mentally and slows your reaction times or makes you not react right.... Why is it any different when it's sex related?

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Like the codependent person I can sometimes be, I CONSOLED HIM! I can't believe I was the one with my arms around HIM...telling him it was just a "Stupid Drunk Moment." I told him I know he loves me and would NEVER in his right mind do anything, knowing it would hurt me. Pathetic?"



The guy isn't a rapist. He probably wasn't consoling her because he was frozen and just realized what he had done and was afraid to touch her. I'll guess that he's never made her cry before since they have had such a "loving" relationship for 3 years.

There is something wrong with the OP however. There is always something wrong with people who do things they don't want to do to please other people.