He did tell me that his father was abusive and miserable and he could never please him. And how much he abused his mother. He can see this, and yet try to do the same thing to me? That's what I will never understand. I would think being abused would make you more sensitive to others. His public persona is actually very sensitive, but his real personality is actually the opposite. It's almost like being sensitive gives him more ideas about how to hurt someone.
So very sad, what wasted lives. The good thing is I think he will never have kids. He always used that against me, if I wanted children, I had to marry him within a year or else he would never want one. Nothing like an ultimatum to make you want to leave.