Re: Concern for grandchildren

From experience I can tell you that your daughter may be a long way yet from even beginning to understand what happened to her. Intellect and self esteem have really very little to do with saving you from the ravages of a narcissistic partner. They are cunning and baffling and powerful.


http://drirene.com/abuserpages.htm


There are pages on this site that describe narcissists in great detail, as well as the effects on their children and victims. I strongly urge you to check this out, as it really gave me perspective and understanding.

I grew up with a very abusive dad- kidnapped my sister and I, began to beat me regularly once I became a pre-teen, etc. We grew up with the best of everything (except parenting), and I mean the best. He is wealthy and powerful, charming, but when the door to our house closed, it was hell. As I grew into adulthood, I attracted abusive men, as well. I truly thought I would never escape. I too was quick to defend them at the same time as I hated them. Anyway, long story short, I overcame these difficulties. When I found the site I am suggesting, stuff started to click into place and make sense, and some of the insanity that I lived through was given a name - a diagnosis - which has helped. I accept my dad as very sick, I choose to not have a relationship with him, although in some weird way I still care for him. Anyway, I just wanted to make sure that you saw my "credentials". :)

Soulful Survivor is very wise, and you can trust her, as well. Please stay in touch with us, as no one really comes here by mistake.

Check out the link - it is great and you will have lots of reading.... Tweet