Re: Concern for grandchildren

I am so sorry for your grandchildren. Ultimately, it is the children who are the most damaged. They do not have a choice as to whom their parents will be. And, for those of us who are immersed in such a relationship, unless we have a personal epiphany, we tend to remain because we know what miseries we'll face every day. Leaving requires risk, and most of us have gotten to the point that nothing is worth the risk - we can't risk defending ourselves as it's an exercise in futility; we can't risk leaving because we haven't been allowed to develop a network of friends to help us along; we refuse to risk because risk is scary.

You mentioned that the father has visitation each week? Are the parents divorced, in the process, or just separated?

There might be a few options available to help your grandkids, but it'll have to be done on the sly, perhaps. More info on the parental relationship would be helpful. For now, just keep a low profile and validate those precious lives whenever you have an opportunity.

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