We did take a trip in October and he was miserable because his blackberry didn't work! YES, he's got an addiction to that as well ! Should I contact his boss and ruin the rest of his career? If I talk to anyone (military legal, psychologist, his boss or clergy) they have a responsiblity to take it to his boss because of his security clearance. If I do that, I have to be sure it's the end of us. We are almost at 25 years of marriage... do I want to give that up? I'm struggling not knowing where to turn.