Very sorry to hear what you are going through. You sound brave. Good for you for not throwing in the towel. Your wife sounds like a very sad person, lost. I know where she is coming from. Hang in there if she will let you. she should check out this forum. She is not alone. It is scary when the rest of the world tries to call you depressed. It sounds as though her body is rejecting this iud. Our bodies were built with a rhythm and this IUD marches to it's own beat. I wish you the best.