Re: Coming from experience

the sexual component is the only thing that distinguishes between an extremely close same sex relationship and a gay relationship. even if a person never wanted to touch a woman ever(and i seriously doubt that on the testimony of too many gay people - not reformed ones either), that doesnt mean they have to have sex with men. in fact, anyone can be celebate if they want to. so even if this extreme exclusive mindset were to exist, it never has to be acted on sexually. that part is always a choice, gay or straight. just look at the straight relationships. who has the choice? who is always held ultimately responsible for any child issued from a male/female bond? thats right, its the MAN, because he never had to do the deed, he chose to.

its a petty copout from a weak person who cant take responsibilty for their choices to say people are born gay. thats like saying someone is born a rocket scientist. sure, some are born with more proclivities toward that than others, but a path must be followed to get them there. and choices must be made.

you want me to believe in romance between two men. well, i suppose people can pretend to do anything, especially when feelings are strong. but as any married couple will tell you, feelings will only take you so far, sex will always wane as life progresses. then that bond will show its true colors.

you know, most straight marriages are about the sex, too. that is why they end in divorce. so, you see, i dont have nearly as much trouble with adult men saying they are not interested in women and living together and sharing their lives together. so be it. but to tell my children they might have been born gay?? that is a lie. as far as i am concerned it is no different than molesting them. why? because for them to understand gay, they have to understand much more about sexual behavior than they should. are they going to have spontaneous encounters while growing up? yes, that is normal and they are curious. should they have a bump and grind paraded in front of them every day throughout our society? no, that is sick and obsessive in nature. but then, so is american society.

just think if you had a child. how would you want to raise him or her? how would you protect that child from undue influence and corruption of their innocence? or dont you remember innocence?