Re: Coming from experience

I hate to chime into this conversation as I think I said just about everything I needed to say in my earlier post, but I am very curious about something you said Trapper in your post. The specific quote is as follows:

"this is where you are dead worng. being gay is nothing but about sex. companionship and love can be had by any two human beings. sex has nothing to do with it."

My question to you is, how do you know? How do you know that being gay is nothing but about sex? Unless you are gay yourself, which I am not presuming you are gay, but how would you know that it is all about sex? How do you know how I feel, what I think, how I love? How do you know that when I look at another man I only see an opportunity to have sex. I don't see how you could. It does not seem you have taken the opportunity to see beyond the stereotypes and see the real person behind the label. When I am attracted to another man, I am not just attracted to his body. I see him as a person as a human being with a mind, a spirit and yes a body. But I don;t jsut see that body, I choose to see all of him and hope he sees all of me. It's not just about having companionship and love. You are right these are things that can be had between any two human beings. You can have a best friend who you share a companionship and share a love with, albeit one of a platonic nature. The same could be said for a father/son, mother/daughter and every other combination out there. All of these relationships can provide companionship and love, but there is a relationship out there that can be so much more than these.

The love, companionship and intimacy that is felt between two people who choose to join their lives together in a complimentary way where each completely and utterly accepts the other is greater than any of these other types of relationship. There is a love that is expressed and felt that is deeper. It reaches into your very soul and unites you to this person on a higher level than you have ever felt before. And yes that love can be expresed through the physical act of love called sex, but it is not the only way it is expressed or felt or expereinced.

It just so happens that for me that partner, that person who compliments my life is a man. It is no different than when a man and a woman fall in love. There is a reason it is called falling in love and not falling in sex. There must be some reason why you look at gay people and automatically conclude it is all about sex. Only you know the answer to that. It is neither for me to know nor speculate. It is a question that only you should consider, if you so choose.