Re: Going to Court

Oh totally common. I wouldn't have had to hit you if you didn't say this or act like that.... It was always the same line, we made them hit us. If we had minded our P's and Q's then they wouldn't have to hit. And then the times that they do harm us, and then show such remorse, that you think they have finally learned. That they really regret hurting us. And that honeymoon can last long enough for you to be thrown off guard for the next assault.

The one time that really got to me what when his mother told me that if I was a better wife, then he wouldn't get so mad! Then she proceeded to lecture me about cooking and cleaning, as if that was the root of all our problems, and the violence. And that woman was also abused by his father. In fact, he finally stood up to his Dad during a bad fight, and protected his Mom from harm.

Amazing that they can be so aware when other's are fighting, but when they are the perpetrator, there is always an excuse. I can see not being aware of some of your actions, but when you hit someone, and they are bleeding, or you've broken one of their bones, you've got to remember that...right? How could he have defended his mother so fiercely and then do the same thing to his wife?