Re: Going to Court

Thanks to both of you, Molly and Cyclotheme... this issue has been weighing heavily on my mind all day. I know the *right* thing to do is to contact the police, but part of me is afraid to turn him in again. On one hand, as I've said before, he's threatened me with my life several times, should i ever 'betray' him, and I fear that this will be yet another so-called betrayal under his belt to fuel his (potential) revenge. On the other hand--and i know you're going to read me the riot act for this one and deservedly so--everything said to me in the past may very well be all talk because he has not carried out one of his threats, which included harassing me at work, and the last time we spoke we were civil (even though it was a direct disobeyment of the order of protection); he wanted some personal items back, and then he asked me if i was going to go through with all of this and i told him i had to.

I need to tell the DA about something that happened; I wish i could remember the exact date, but i'm sure i can find out through my cellular service. I received a phone call in I believe December or early January from his callphone number; why i decided to answer the phone i do not remember. maybe it was because i wanted to tell him not to call me, so i would hafve a record of the call on file and could file a complaint, but it certainly wan't because i wanted to chat amicably. to my surprise, there was a police officer on the other end who identified himself as Officer Toro of the 120 Precinct, and that Tracy was there with him. i asked him how would i know he was who he said he was, and he said (quite sternly) that he had no reason to lie to me. He told me that tracy was there at the precinct filing a report because some of the artwork/supplies/personal papers that i'd had carefully packed, sealed, and delivered to his residence (where several other artists lived) were missing, and he wanted to know if i might be in possession of any of these particular items. i did not, but i did have a few other things that i'd found that were his. he wanted to know if i would be willing to meet with them and drop them off at the precinct at some time in the near future. i reluctantly agreed to this. he then told me he was going to put him on the phone with me so that we could make arrangements, and i told the officer that i had an order of protection and was not supposed to speak with him. he became arrogant and said that it was okay beacuse he said so... I'm beginning to wonder if this guy was a PO at all. at any rate, i spoke to him about it again the next day, and during the conversation he asked me if i was really going to go through with the proceedings. i told him i had to because i had to protect myself. i never heard from him again, but his entertainment lawyer called me a couple of months later and asked me if i would mail everything i had to him, which i happily obliged to keep him out of my life.

i can't wait until this is all over, and i really hope that he's nothing but an all-talk bully that will keep out of my life for fear of being busted again.

He actually had me believing the next day (i was not allowed to go home and was forced to sleep in the car with him that night and then he took me to church in the morning because he wanted to be a better person) that the black eye was my fault. i get the impression that that is a common operation amongst abusive types.