Re: How important is sexual attraction?

Well, here's my feeling and this is coming from someone who has "Been there, Done that" and now I am older and have 4 grandchildren.

Sexual attraction is so important when you first meet someone. Those "Bells and Whistles" that go off when you are sexually attracted to someone is the best feeling in the world. That feeling can make you feel beautiful, attractive....an overall "Everything if right with the world" feeling. When you meet that certain someone, it is wonderful and your heart goes pitter pat and your stomach has butterflies. You wait for THAT phone call and when you are out with THAT person, you don't want the evening to EVER end.

But, once you have that person all to yourself and you settle into the everyday things in life, the passion you once felt ALWAYS diminishes and that's where a lot of people get into trouble. They think..."Oh no! The passion is gone. I must not love him/her anymore." Then they go out looking for "the passion" once more. They find it and think once more ...."This is it!" Then, only to discover, after they settle with Mr./Mrs. Perfect, the passion dies down again.....I actually know people who have spent their whole lives looking for passion only to be let down time and time again.

So, the question you ask yourself when you are looking for a person to be with....When I am old and gray, will I be comfortable with this person? Does he/she look at me through the eyes of beauty and will he/she look at me through eyes of love when I am older?

If you truly feel this person is someone you could spend the rest of your life with, I would think long and hard about this passion thing everyone seems to be looking for these days. If you could see yourself sitting on the front porch with he/she and holding hands when you are 70, then you will have achieved more than most older couples do when they are older. I have found, as I have gotten older, that it is more important to be with someone you feel comfortable with and someone who is there for you. I also know a lot of older people who looked for passion and never found it. Now, they are old and by themselves and very lonely.

I hope I have given you something to think about....
Paulette

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