How important is sexual attraction?

I will try to keep this as brief as possible.

I have been in my relationship for over 6 years. I am American, but have been living in Spain for 7 years. My partner is Spanish.

This Spring I began to deal with my desires to cheat on him, which made me realize that there were problems in our relationship and although obvious I had been ignoring them. I realized that those desires were still there.

I am not now, and have never been, sexually attracted to my partner. Intimacy has always been uncomfortable for me. HOWEVER we get alone so well and are the best of friends. He is the perfect husband and I have no problems with our relationship outside of the issue of sex and intimacy. We have tried things but I think that it is impossible to create attraction.

I am 29 and do not want to live the rest of my life like this but I am also afraid to leave.

Do you marry your best friend and give up intimacy?

Help! This is eating away at me.

xoxo

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