You still do not get it Monica - however, your sniveling sentimental swill which masquerades as advice is not helpful to "i'm stuck". Your replies are rambling hostile pukes without focus or substance. You may be able to delude yourself that you are a compassionate caring and sharing type, but the tone and vibe in your posts are unmistakeably arrogant and self-important.
You are one of those women who have appointed yourself the saviour of the "wounded" - you are a freakin'know-it-all without the skills or intelligence to pull it off. Get lost.