Re: I'm stuck-reply to Monicaeh

Jimmie,
So, now you’re the psychic network…this conversation with you has become more negative and old. As the caring person you try to portray yourself as, you should have apologized to me for hurting my feelings, however you are clearly abrasive, rude and obsessed with the need to be right and have the last word.

I simply posted on this site to help a hurting person that asked for others opinions, see things from more than one perspective. Having more than one persons view on a forum allows a person to have more data to make more informed choices. In any relationship there are at least two views to everything. I does not matter who is right and who is wrong. That is not important.
(How childish).
In his posts, he shared his views about her, his views of what he thinks she feels, his views of what he wants, why and what she said about their situation. Your comments about me making him feel that he is not ok are so off base. Perhaps someone should read my post to you out loud, so that you can read his or her lips and understand what I actually said. You act as if someone broadening his or her horizons and growing is a bad thing. You say that he is OK the way that he is… Ok has a lot of meanings… He said that he sees himself as lost and is very HURT. That’s not ok. It is hurt and lost.

For the last time, he asked for the suggestions in his posts. I am tired of defending myself to you. You are typing comments that I did not say or imply. The bottom line is that I (as imperfect as I am) try to communicate with the best intentions, in practical, clear and truthful terms. Unlike you (Mr. your view is the only and perfect one), I avoid beating around the bush, living in denial, or telling people what I think that they want to hear so that they can continue to repeat the same choices that allow them to be in the situation that they are trying to change (Hurt or otherwise). So, if you choose to warm fuzzy someone into repetitive behaviors, or sweep the real issues under a rug then good for you. I don’t.

I have a DRAMA-FREE HAPPY LIFE and an open mind. Mostly because I choose to focus on solutions and NOT spend my time talking with perfect, negative problem/conflict focused people. All of the happy people that I know seek to grow and improve themselves. Have a light bulb moment. Change is good. Books are good. Reading is fundamental. Smiles

I hope the VERY BEST for Lost whether it is with this young lady, alone or with someone else. I’m sure that he will find his way.

As for you…free to type more abrasive, mean spirited, misinterpretation focused, conflict creating posts so that you can feel conquering getting what you clearly need…. the last word.
YOU WIN. I choose to have no more posts for you.
Best Wishes (Sincerely. But Take off the gloves, Lose the Thorns)



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