I read all the replies to your post and the one above from 'monicaeh' really disturbs me . It is blaming and attacking but masquerades as advice giving. It is not a man's job to twist and bend himself out of shape to please some woman.That type behaviour is unnecessary and not desirable.Stand up straight and tall and stay the way that you are. Ignore that idiotic book that she recommended, you need one entitled, " How to choose a sincere woman"..