Re: Can't forget soulmate

John-

I have to say that your words have not only inspired me, but they have comforted me. All this time, I was thinking that you all would think I was nuts. It's nice to know that others have these issues and that there are ways to get through them.

I have tried the "think of something else" thing when my ex pops into my mind and I have to admit, it really works. Soon, I'm onto something else and the feelings go away. I am seeing as the days go by that it is simply ME making myself feel this way.

When I read the part about "if you really want to go back to your ex then do it" I cringed. I don't. I honestly, truly do not. I can't imagine living without my fiancee. And when I read that, it became so much more obvious to me. I need him and I am so thankful for him. These are things I never really felt with my ex. With my ex, all I ever felt was fear: fear that he would leave, fear that he would cheat etc. etc. These feelings have never surfaced with my fiancee. I feel so blessed to have him.

I do feel guilty, however, about having contacted my ex while in my relationship. I know that that info would really hurt my fiancee. I have chosen to keep it to myself, and to work on my own guilt. By totally devoting my thoughts and actions to my fiancee in the future, I feel I will be able to overcome those guilty feelings. By taking power from my ex, in my own mind, he and/or thoughts of him can never hurt me. Or us.

Again, thank you soooo very much. I honestly feel that without your input I might have gone on to make some bad decisions (like contacting my ex). I know that completely erasing these feelings will take time, but I know that I am ok for having them and worth changing them!! Tweet