When you said,"I reckon we stay the same because we need to learn the obvious lessons from the place we're in" i thought that makes perfect sense. I am ready to to begin to learn different lessons...or re-visit having high quality interpersonal relationships. I have been going to school for six of the last 8 years...When I was in Mexico and out of school, I felt like I was establing healty relationships but when I returned to North America, to get an advanced degree...I might have not left enough room for healthy interpersonal relationship? Maybe now I have learned the lessons that will allow me to move on? Your readig was useful and the reality shifter web site was well worth visiting...Padadigmn shifting is the stuff we are talking about? Thank you. Dean