Re: Dating,pursuing,and men???

Interesting comments....
But I think I have a better idea.
How much do you KNOW about this guy since High School? I mean KNOW, not what he has told you or you have heard. It sounds like you live close enough to each other that you could easily have heard things about him from time to time. I come from a small town myself, but moved away right after high school. I still hear about people. I don't ask, but you know how it is, some people like to gossip.

You keep saying that YOU were the only one trying... what exactly do you mean? If you were the only one attempting to hold a conversation and he just seemed interested in watching the movie, or seeing how close he could sit to you before you squirmed, then there might be issues.
I'll share this with, because it is something I have learned over the years while dating. A movie is GREAT for the 2nd or 3rd date, but not on the first. In High School, we went to movies on dates for two reasons. One we were afraid to talk, or had nothing to talk about, so the moive offered a nice distraction. Two so we could sit in the back row and make out... As adults, we have lived more, so there is much more to talk about. I personally make it a habit of meeting at a coffee shop, or some place where we can talk and get to know each other more. This works on many levels... its a mutually nutral location, in case she ends up being psycho bunny boiler, and it put us both in an enviroment that is not threatening, nor lends to "extra curricular activities".
I am sure you felt safe inviting this guy to your home, but how much do you really know about him? Do I sound like your Mom yet?
The other issue I am seeing here is, what do you care if he doesn't call you again? I reread your first posting, and soemthing I missed caught my eye. You said that you were 36 and ready for a serious relationship. You then go on to expound on the fact that this guy seemed more interested in getting a brithday kiss than in getting to know you. You really need to take a step back and think about what it is that you are doing here. I have been in your shoes, or at least the ones I am thinking that you are wearing right now. What does it matter if it doesn't work out with this guy. Sure you knew him a LITTLE in High School. So what? It only puts extra stress on you to think that this means anything. I have to wonder if you are not ASSUMING that because you come from similar back grounds that you have similar taste or even out looks on life. Let me tell you, it doesn't. But before this becomes a novelle, let me get to the point. He is not the only man out there. You have no emotional ties with him, that I can see, and life will go on if he isn't Mr Right. If I were you, I would give him one more shot, assuming he calls. Don't invite him to your home. Do let him pick you up at your home, or meet him some where. BRING YOUR Cell Phone , but turn it off (I hate going out on dates with girls who spend more time answering their cell than they do talking to me) If he uses that line about, "oh damn I forgot my wallet at my house, do you mind if we swing by and pick it up", let him, but don't go in. If he insist you go in, call a cab. He is only after one thing.
I hope this helps. Sorry again for the length. Please enjoy yourself... take it slow, keep it lite, and laugh, this is the stuff sitcoms are written about, if we can laugh at S.I.C., we can laugh at ourselves....
Good Luck