Re: Dating,pursuing,and men???

I am only responding because I have SO been here... LoL

Okay, spur of the moment meeting, very cool. Especially since you are both busy professionals. It seems to go down hill from there, and judging from what I read, this is why. You had expectations, and so did he. What his were, I have no idea. Yours seemed to be just spending time with a man that you were interested in getting to know more. Very normal. Showing up with a DVD after you told him that you only had a VCR?? No idea there, is he deaf? So it starts. Expectations are not met, and he may be feeling like a dork for bringing the wrong movie. Either way, you are both suddenly not in a comfortable situation. The stress begins. As the night progresses, you both become more tired from your day. Stress, and exhaustion... not the best situation for a first meeting. There are a lot of holes that need to be filled before getting a CLEAR picture of everything. How many times had you spoken prior to meeting? What was he like in High School? Personality?
As for wanting him to pursue you... that’s okay, but is he the type that pursues? I personal do not pursue. Instead I try to meet the girl half way. I express interest, if it is precipitated, then we move on. If it isn't, then I back off. On the other hand, if a girl comes on too strong, I RUN LIKE THE WIND. Everyone has their expectations. The key is to roll with it. Keep it lite. If you’re expectations aren't met, keep smiling and try something else. It is so difficult to do this sometimes. Try being the guy meeting the parents for the first time, and the mom starts asking you about your ex wife...
I think you should give this guy a second chance. But let him make the first move. If he calls you again and suggest a scheduled date. I say go for it. I caution you against calling him and asking, in today’s dating world that means you are going to pay. This took a lot of getting use to, I am about your age, but it can be nice, and puts both persons on a level playing field. She has a job and makes money, I have a job and make money... partners if you will.
If he never calls, he is either a dork or so embarrassed by his mistake that he can't bring himself to make the first move. Again, roll with it. Have fun. Don't stress it, and just relax.
As for the asking him about his ex girlfriends... I maybe alone here, but as a guy, I don't mind answering questions of this nature, but NOT on the first date. This is something better left for later, but certainly before you become intimate.
Sorry for the length, but I hope this helps....