Re: Does God want me to choose between fulfilling my dreams and the love for my Mom?

Hi George,

I really feel for you. I am in a somewhat similar situation, so I can't give you any advice. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone in making these decisions. I hope it works out that somehow you get everything you want.

I am 43, and I FINALLY met the love of my life. Problem is, he lives in Canada on one coast, and I live in the US on the opposite coast. He wants me to marry him. For many reasons, I would be the one to move. My widowed mom lives with me. She is not sick, but has the usual small things wrong with her at age 79. I really want to go be with my love, but I feel obligated to my Mom. I don't think she would want to come, and I don't think my brother would care for her properly, he can't even care for himself, and I don't like her being alone. I am so ready to go, I have a job that I am miserable in, I see alot of unethical things, I won't last in it much longer. Plus I was always sick since I was a child, and just now I am feeling better. I am finally starting to be happy.

My boyfriend lives in a much nicer place than I do, and I would finally have someone to love and care for me and share life with. I've been alone soooo very long. Practically things would be so much easier, I could take classes for a new career.

My brother never had any family responsiblity, and I always did. Part of me feels it is my turn to be happy and finally have a life, and my mother can come or not, and my brother should finally do something for his family. I'm so torn, don't I ever deserve to be happy? I always took care of and finanically supported my family. My dad was very sick since I was young, and I was the breadwinner and had all the responsibility since I was young. Life just is not fair.

Exactly when do you stop living your life for others and finally get to have some happiness? Should I die alone and unloved when I could have been happy? I guess the only answer is do what your heart says, but I just can't figure things out.

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