Re: I am lost.Please help

I really feel for you!! This is such a tough situation...

I really hope you take the time to read everything these woman have written to you, they are all very insightful. This man is not the one for you!! He is not a good man, a good man would have an affair and a good man would not tell a woman to have an abortion-there are no if and's or but's about that!

This man sounds like he just wants to have the best of both worlds... he is aready lying to his wife...Now he is trying to control you too so he doesnt have to get caught or have too much responsibility. Really, this guy is a jerk and you need to think about you and your baby!

I am just going to lay out my advice, I hope you concider it-becasue you are really worth more than this man makes you feel.

The first thing you need to do distance from this guY, let him know that you need time to think. Now do not call him- emotionally abusive men are more addictive than drugs-really... write yourself a big note letting you know that you need and want someone who is available and who loves you.

Now get the book called " he is just not that into you" read it all and make your self notes- really remind yourself that this man is not the one for you.

Remind yourself of his wife and children and how he is not really being a kind man to them either... if he didnt want to be there he could leave. Dont feel sorry for him!!

Remind yourself that he is freaking out because he doesnt want to be caught!!

Now you have to decide if you are going to keep the baby... now lets just count this guy out... so you will be having a baby on your own. Can you do that? Do you have help and support? Do you want to do that?

It really sounds to me like you do want this baby. This will link you to this man-but dont let that be the reason you have it! Dont try to get him by having the baby. Just take some breaths and focus on you...your dreams, wants and desires... You could find a wonderful partner and that partner will love and care for you and the baby if it is the right man...

you deserve so much more than this joker!!

Good luck and take care