Re: I am lost.Please help
Dinia,
{{{{HUGS}}}}
I wish I could hug you. I agree with "nspeth", she raises some excellent points to consider. It is not fair that your boyfriend is putting this pressure on you. Quite frankly this is the risk he took, and it's not fair for him to be making the final decision. I was fine with your post, and understood his feelings until I came to this :
"...he said it will damage him spiritually. for him the only solution is abortion.
Wow!
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
WHAT ABOUT YOUR SPIRITUALITY?
WHAT ABOUT YOUR WELL-BEING?
WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Ideally, of course you would want the help and support of the father of the child. But if that isn't an option, YOU CAN DO IT ALONE. Many women raise children by themselves. It isn't easy, it is tiring and hard work. But the rewards are great and most children grow up fine. So if you ever question your capability, just know that YOU CAN DO IT.
As far as abortion goes I'm pretty biased, and can't give you an unbiased opinion. Like you, I had an abortion when I was younger and in an unstable relationship. I did because of pressure from the man and from family. I regret the decision to this day. And, have done many studies into the harmful effects especially the emotional and spiritual effects. Because quite frankly, regardless of faith or religion abortion negatively affects the soul and spirit of the woman. It goes against the very law of nature wich is LIFE.
Also, from your previous posts I already know that you care about the life growing inside of you. So my advice to you is to think through your options and make any decision with GREAT care and consideration.
{{{{HUGS}}}}
Love,
Ev