Re: I am lost.Please help

Wow, ok. This is hard. First I wouldn't make any quick decisions. You have a beautiful life growing inside of you who deserves a chance to live like everyone else regardless of if it is planned or not. Unfortunately, this situation is not ideal seeing as how your "boyfriend" is already married with kids. I don't want to sound judgemental but why are you seeing a married man? You say he is a nice man but nice men do not cheat on their wives and then tell the woman he got pregnant to abort their child. I think the reason he is freaking out now is because he knows he will be caught because now there is evidence of cheating.....your beautiful baby. I know you say you love him but honey you and your baby deserve SO SO much better. I think it's terrible he is putting so much guilt upon you......telling you that it would damage him spiritually! Give me a break. What about the damage he is causing his wife and kids and now you. What would an abortion do to YOU spiritually? I can't tell you what you should do but please go with your gut instincts, don't let him make this decision for you. If you do decide to not keep the baby please consider adoption rather than abortion. And please take a good long hard look at your life and this man you say you love. He is not worth it in my opinion. I think he's using you and now is running from his responsibility. Why all of a sudden does he not want to break his wife's heart; doesn't he think that sleeping with other women already did that!! How many other women is he sleeping with besides you and his wife, assuming he does a lot of travelling? I say all this is kind spirit because I really feel for you. It's not fair that he is being an a$$ but it's clear to me that you need to move on and do what's best for you and your baby. Please let us know how it goes for you. I hope I didn't offend you.

Nicole