I waited too

I waited until marrage too, and here are some of the things I've learned.

For men to last they need to figure out their "just about there" moment and then find away to hold off. Some do this with a mental picture others use breathing. I don't know what works, but I do know that it is possible! My hubby can last 30 minutes with his "way" (don't know a good word for it!!).

Yes women can orgasim with sexual intercourse. And they can orgasim more than once. Alot of that depends on slow foreplay. It's okay to feel, touch, rub, and if you want to taste. I have found that it helps to concentrate on what you are physically feeling. Concentrate on what the feel of his hands on you does to you. Think about how touching him makes you feel. Beleive it or not, just thinking of how your body is responding is a real turn on!

Now the clitoris is the main center for the orgasim. It is as sensative as the guy's. Just like men, the stimulation brings extra blood to the area and that hieghtens sensations. As that happens the clitoris, and surrounding area, become very sensative. So either you, or him, gently rubbing and messaging the area will start this happening. If you tense from embarassment concentrate on how your body is responding. That's how I got past the embarrassment myself.

As for playing with yourself, spanking the monkey, with different people that happens differently. I like my breasts touched and played with. Whether by me or him doesn't matter, I find that very erotic. So for me thats a starting point. When I started doing so in the presence of my husband, I had problems. Then I realized how much he liked seeing that. So, in my mind, I became a tease with the desire to drive him crazy with lust. Then, as my physical sensations increase, I move my hands lower to the more "private" areas. As I said in the last paragraph, the clitoris is very sensative. So that is an area to start with. Think about how you feel, and if a certain spot really gets you going, try to stimulate that spot. Then, when you feel braver, you can introduce that spot to your husband.

Now, with the advent of the internet, there are things you can get that will help things. They won't go across that fine christian line either, as long as it's just to enhance your intamacy with your husband. There is such a thing as a silicone cock ring that vibrates. The silicone is very soft and stretchy and the ring is worn at the base of the penis. There is a tiny vibrator, refered to as a bullet, in part of the silicone that is battery controlled. If the ring is worn with the extention pointing up the woman gets clitoral stimulation. It also turns your guy into an adult toy. My husband and I have done that. Not only does it feel fantastic for you, but the ring delays ejaculation for him as well! Shopping online means no embarrassing parking lots. If you want a lead to one, I will give it, as I know it is a good site. But only if asked, I don't want to step on toes.

I hope this helps some! Tweet