Re: Intimacy and marriage

Hi, I too have a similar backround and commend you for waiting, you will be blessed because of it. We also had a rough start. Read alot, but realize you and your husband are unique and what "WORKS" for some may or may not work for you. Do this as an activity together, discover what works for you and for him together, experiment, do not be afraid to fail, or embarassed to try things which might sound silly. I disagree with mountain dew on the male stamina issue, this is up to you, some women like more vaginal stimulation, I do not, I am very sensitive in the vaginal area and less is more for me,remember the act of intercorse is not all there is to sex :) But, if this is important to you, then lovingly and patiently encourage your husband as he practices his control. If you want to experiment with self-gratification, why not do it together instead of alone? Remember you waited for sex for that special relationship, so why not keep it in the realtionship? Being married 17 years now, I can tell you that you both have alot of growing and changing in the future in all areas of marriage and sex is the same, it will change and evolve as your whole relationship does. I wish you the best.
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