I looked at this earlier, but I was at work and couldn't really respond until now. It's funny because you've already done all the solving yourself. However, when I first read the dream, I thought something slightly different from what you wrote... though in the same vein, so I thought I should share, just in case it opens up another dimension to your dream.
Upon first reading it, I thought that you had some fears about your daughter maturing, about letting her become her own person, letting go...are you overprotective or are you worried about her being too outspoken, a bad girl? Those are the feelings that I got from your dream. Could be way off, but thought I would share in case these feelings are manisfesting your dreams.