Anger

Hmmm..sounds like you are still dependent or living close with them.

I remember first came learning to use anger when I needed it and try to release it when I did not. Before I did that, had gotten myself to a place independent of family. Maybe that was a prerequisite? I don't know.

Anger is not healthy, but is a better choice than depression. At least you know it is there, so maybe when the time is right you will be able to move on and be free of it.

It's a long journey, and for me at least a gradual one. I wasn't lucky to have access to a therapist or anything, maybe a good one would have helped me move it along faster. How to know?

My wish for you is that you keep holding that awareness, and that as you are in a better position to release pieces of the anger that you can do so and not hold it a moment longer than you need it! It is so worth it, you end up with totally different friendships & more fun &... it's just better on the other side and something to look forward to and to keep moving toward. Even if right now you use your anger to keep moving forward! LOL!
In the meantime, when it comes, greet it at the front door with recognition...oh here is anger again... watch it pass through you and leave the back door open so it can leave again. Usually I have to escort it along the way... thanks for coming...here you go. Sounds weird, I know, but that imagery works for me. Anger is only a visitor, it isn't me and doesn't define you, either.

Cheers!