Re: This is a good article if you have hang ups either way.

Let’s say I come home after a bar fight with a black eye and bruised knuckles.  

After the first time, I might be able to say “That other guy bumped into me and then shoved me ….so he started the fight”

But if every time I go to a bar, I get into a fight …. eventually it should dawn on me that the fights are likely my fault. 

Why do I keep getting in fights?   Am I doing something that keeps setting people off?

But you write this:

“ But the only reason I end up arguing with people, is they start getting snarky, irate, abrasive, abusive, and vicious “

You are essentially saying that all of humanity keeps doing things to cause you to get into arguments with them.   

There is a pretty good chance that your behaviour and attitude are at root of it.  

In a nutshell, it boils down to your excessive need to be “right” every single time.  ,

What causes that need?  A large ego and no self-awareness.

But you are literally killing your self by constantly arguing with people.

Constant arguing 'increases premature death risk'

http://www.bbc.com/news/health-27327325

“But she added that people who were always or often involved in conflicts were at greatest risk,”