Re: Why is being nasty instead of being nice pay off

Hooray!! Someone who has the same question that I do!! I don't like how the people answering you put the blame on you when bitchy, mean people get more respect than you do. I also wonder, out loud, if anyone offers "how to be a bitch" lessons. I would like some of the respect (and friendship) that nasty people have!
I often ask people close to me the same question: why do nasty people get so much respect?? I see it everywhere.
I am a kind, soft person. I respect others and I do not like to step on their toes. Still, I have no friends. No one acknowledges me.
I see aggressive, almost thoughtless people in action. These are the people to whom the masses are attracted! People sit next to them, ask how they are doing, join in conversation with them....the list goes on.
And there I sit, a nice, kind person, all alone.
It all reminds me of the woman who keeps going for the nasty man to date or to marry. She sees something of power in him....as in, he does not care what anyone thinks of him. He appears powerful and in control. This is attractive to her.
Is it the same with nasty people? Is this why others seem to enjoy being in their company? Tweet