Re: Why is being nasty instead of being nice pay off

You're confusing "tolerance" with "liking" someone who's unpleasant.

You're confusing "respect" with "fear," as well.

Most people equate kindness with being flawed, and it's a pervasive misconception.  I recently had an experience with a very, very bad person (sociopath) who accused me of "...being too nice..." and not telling people about their own flaws.  What he mistook for a weakness is something for which I am very proud of.  I don't intentionally inflict harm upon others because I firmly believe that there's enough misery in this world without going to greater lengths to make more.  However, I also don't allow people to walk all over me, either.  I'll call it the way I see it, but I don't have to be hurtful, mean, or intentionally cruel.