Very well put, SoulfulSurvivor!

This is so true!:

As for reaching out to this former friend, it's something that nearly everyone entertains who has experienced negative episodes. We want answers. We want feedback. We want to know if the person has been as devastated as we have been. Even with abusive ex-spouses, we often want redress for the sins that were committed against us. The "reckoning" is not made with our abusers or co-abusers. The "reckoning" is with our Selves. Most often, this requires that we maintain NO CONTACT with abusers or co-abusers for the rest of our lives. The reason is quite simple: there will be no apology; there will be no truth-telling; there will only be salt poured over an open wound.

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As one who had a verbally, emotionally---and sometimes physically abusive alcoholic, narcissistic mother, SoulfulSurvivor's post is spot on. I never got an apology or truth-telling.

You'll never forget what happened. However, it's important to move on and come to terms with what occured. Then you work on being the best person you can be. It takes time but you can become more self-confident with better self-esteem.

Good for you for looking for another counselor who is a better fit!

All the best to you!

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