I'm adopted

I'm adopted and it's not a picnic. There are many aspects to adoption, and most people adopt for their OWN needs, not the need of the child.

I am shocked at the tenor of this thread. People talking about only children, and how they feel (I'm an only child) and someone had the gaul to say they would adopt so they can pick the gender and "test drive" the child first.

OMG, I'm almost too pissed to even respond to any of this. Adoptee's are some of the most messed up people I know. It may not show outwardly, and it may not show up for many years, but those early feelings of abandonment are very real and primal. I too stuffed down that feeling, and convinced myself that I "belonged", but the simple fact of biology is not something to be taken lightly. And people that take children from their cultures and try to assimilate them elsewhere? To me that's the most henious of all crimes.

Look, I love my adoptive parents. And I equally love my biological family who I just found. But that did not fill in all the holes that adoption leaves.

I'm going to leave my comments at that. I don't wish to debate this. No one can know what it is like to be an adoptee, unless they are adopted. Period. I don't care if it's your cousin or whomever. What you see may not be their reality.

I would strongly suggest you read The Primal Wound if anyone is considering adoption as an alternative. If you use Curezone google, there is a very good youtube series on this book.



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