Re: #79767--I agree with what you said---up to a certain point...

you have to realize in everything there are outliers. your husband and daughter could very well be outliers. there is no doubt in my mind that being alone as a child can be detrimental to their social developement. i know from personal experience. with that being said, i think your daughter grew up to be outspoken because you and your husband probably showed her alot of love and support and encouraged her to be outspoken. however, alot of parents are not like you and your husband when it comes to raising children.



i am not contradicting myself when i say we are overpopulated and then ask her to have more kids. what i'm saying is that if she must have children, which is her choice not mine, then will she be in a position to have more for that child to interact with. i am just trying to make an optimal situation for the child.


yes, i'm fully aware that couples can suffer from fertility problems and can only have one child. for that, i cannot touch, but this is why i ask in the first place is she in a position to have more. she would probably know the first time around if she's infertile.

then you say:

"if you can't feed the child on your own salary then why have them.

Are you saying that if a person can only properly support one child, should that person not have a child since she won't be able to give that child siblings?"

if she can only support one child, and chooses to only have one because of that (finances), then that is her prerogative. but it may not be in the best interest of the child to not have any siblings. you and the poster are looking at having children because it would satisfy you and your supposed need to be a parent like everyone else. I, on the other hand, could care less about my feelings and needs when it comes to the child. i'm solely thinking about an optimal living conditions for the child. if i can't provide that, then it defeats the purpose of having them. i know a godzillion amt of people in my life who've had unhappy, traumatic childhoods because the parents could not provide properly for them. the kids grow up with alot of resentments. if you don't supply for them, they will not let you live it down when they become adults. Tweet