Re: don't wanna have sex at all, affecting my marriage

Ok, well some of you have been really helpful, in a way. Except for Vance. You can suck it, dude, go post somewhere else. You're just trying to stir up trouble.

The thing is, this has really been happening since I had my son three years ago, and it's been escalating recently. No, its not that I don't want to have sex cuz he's not providing, gimme a break, who DOESN'T know someone who's been laid off recently? I just mentioned it because it obviously causes alot of stress in this house to go from him making good money to being on unemployment. So maybe that's the reason for the escalation, and maybe not. I recently had some tests done because I really feel like my hormones are out of whack. They said the tests were 'normal,' whatever that means, cuz it's not like they do baseline hormone testing to compare it to later... but whatev. I know the Pill usually knocks your sex drive down even more... I was on a progestin-only Pill for a year after my son was born. I quit taking it altogether in March of '08 because I tried 3 different Pills and they all made me a complete basket case. I agreed to try this one this time because it's a low dose. The dr asked me to try it for 3 months and then we'll see where I'm at.

That said, I will share that the night after I first posted, we ended up gettin' down ta bid-ness and it was ok. But the thing is... you know how in movies, a woman will joke that she pretended her lover was someone else? I dunno if anyone does that in real life haha... Well, for some reason I decided to pretend that I was someone else. Not anyone in particular, but someone who's pretty & has a nice body. Aaaand, it kinda worked. Which makes me think my problem is all about ME (big surprise, right?) and the way I feel about myself. Mentally. I just recently (like, 2 days ago) started working out and maybe that will help too, just the physical activity. I mean, I'm not totally gross or anything, I don't have a skewed body image. But in the last 10 years I've been on several BC methods, including the Depo shot which made me gain weight, then I was on antidepressants for a couple years and that packed on some pounds. So I'm just not happy with myself, and perhaps that's why I don't want him touching me either.

Sigh. I dunno. I suppose it's all wait and see right now because no matter what I do, nothing is going to be fixed overnight. Unfortunately. And it's most likely a combination of things. So thanks guys. I have tried looking things up online but nothing really fits. :(